CB16 – Shownotes: Peter Block – Community: The Structure of Belonging (Part 2)Title: 16: Peter Block – Community: The Structure of Belonging (Part 2)Welcome back to Create Belonging, the podcast where we explore the world through the lens of belonging.This is Part 2 of my conversation with Peter Block, author of Community: The Structure of Belonging. Where Part 1 laid out the framework, Part 2 took a turn I didn't expect. It got personal. We go deeper into leadership, dissent, curiosity, and eventually into the riskiest of the six conversations: gifts. Somewhere in the middle, I named my own gift out loud for the first time, and I can honestly say I'm not the same person I was when we started. If you haven't heard Part 1 yet, I'd start there, but if you want to jump in here, I'll catch you up.Who Is Peter Block?Peter Block is an author, a citizen of Cincinnati, Ohio, and co-founder of Designed Learning. Full bio and headshot at peterblock.com/media-kit.His books include Flawless Consulting, Stewardship, The Answer to How Is Yes, The Abundant Community, Activating the Common Good, and the book that brought him to this podcast: Community: The Structure of Belonging, now in its third edition.Key InsightsBosses, yes. Worship, no. A leader sets the rails; peers create the worldThe Leadership Industrial Complex: when we wait for a leader to save us, it lets us off the hookCuriosity is the breath of relationships, and the delivery system of well-being"If you can't say no, your yes means nothing" – dissent is what makes belonging realNaming your gifts is the riskiest conversation: once you name them, you have to do something with them"When you say it out loud, it changes your relationship to it"Break a group into threes and people realize "I'm not alone"In the absence of connection and belonging, we get violence, now normalizedTimestamps00:05 Cold open – Peter on violence and the absence of connection00:27 Welcome back; a recap of Part 1 02:10 Why Part 2 goes deeper; a note on the book 03:40 Interview resumes – the trouble with leadership 05:36 Peter on bosses, hierarchy, and "it lets me off the hook" 06:45 Mateo's breakdown: The Leadership Industrial Complex 08:59 Peers create the world; why Peter wants to stop the worship 13:52 Curiosity as the breath of relationships 14:33 Mateo's breakdown: Unpacking curiosity 16:55 Dissent, a camp story, and "if you can't say no, your yes means nothing" 18:01 Mateo's breakdown: The six conversations of community 19:30 Why gifts is the riskiest conversation of all 20:10 Peter on why naming your gifts is terrifying 22:34 Mateo names his gift out loud 24:44 Mateo's breakdown: What is your gift? 27:28 Saying it out loud changes your relationship to it 28:38 Why Mateo spent years brushing his gift aside 30:03 Groups of three, and the relief of "I'm not alone" 31:46 Gifts from the margin to the center 33:43 Mateo thanks Peter; why being a bystander isn't an option 34:29 In the absence of belonging, we have violence 36:26 Closing reflections – community as the structure of belongingResources & LinksCommunity: The Structure of Belonging (3rd Ed): penguinrandomhouse.com/books/815995/community-third-edition-by-peter-block/ Peter Block's Substack: substack.com/@peterblock Designed Learning: designedlearning.com Peter Block on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/peter-block-238848a/ Designed Learning on LinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/designed-learning/ConnectInstagram: instagram.com/createbelongingLinkedIn: linkedin.com/company/create-belonging Email: createbelonging@gmail.comThis is the second of a two-part conversation. If it moved you, share it with someone thinking about how to build something real in their corner of the world. And as always – go create belonging for yourself and for others.Acknowledgments: Music "Playing with Color" by Nullhertz via Pixabay. Thank you to the lovely people at Purple Space for your support. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.